When a group of women more than twice my age gather in a coffee shop to chat, it’s hard not to listen. It becomes even more important to pay attention when they begin dishing out advice and sharing wisdom about the benefits of aging.
After a round of gossip at the table about who is getting divorced for the second time, the women began talking about updates in their lives while giving and seeking advice from the others about various topics.
“You need to be on the Facebook,” the one said while the others politely smiled. “That is where all of the fun is happening.”
The chattiest of the bunch leaned back in her chair as if feeling defeated and started sharing the struggle she’s having with her teenage daughter.
“The coffee shop down the street is hosting trivia night Friday night. They’re even playing songs from the Beetles and ask guests to request,” she said. “My daughter will be home from college and I’d like to take her, but I know she wouldn’t want anything to do with ‘old people’.”
The women laughed and moved into a discussion about the benefits that come as a result of accumulating years.
“There’s a point you get to when you realize age really doesn’t matter,” one woman said. “I’ve decided to stop counting at 69.”
The conversation continued, with a list of important aging benefits trailing close behind.
- Discounts at grocery stores
- Cheap Frosty’s at Wendy’s
- Ability to say what you want; and
- An unsaid societal license to use the word “dead” without sounding to harsh, when speaking about those who have passed on before you
The best of the advice, though, was that from the last woman to leave the table.
“These are the perks of getting older. We need to take advantage of them because we’ve earned it!”